From January 20 to 22 at De Hoorneboeg
If you previously participated in our Parenting Ourselves Retreat, you are cordially invited to this in-depth weekend.
We shall not stop with exploration,T.S. Elliot:
and the end of all our exploring,
will be to arrive where we started,
and know the place for the first time.
We think that when we are adults and from our adult “I” we react to the world around us. But all our childhood experiences are like the growth rings of a tree. If something in the present moment triggers our past experiences, we may be reacting from inner-child-parts without being aware of it.
We all started out as vulnerable children, and we can be hurt or hurt as children. If those injuries are not processed or healed, they can take over in the now. It is also possible that we react from internalized critical or demanding parents, without us noticing or wanting to.
However, we also all have an inner healthy parent within us, who can listen to the inner child in us, take care of it, help us heal and grow together. The caring gesture we can make towards ourselves is what we call ‘parenting ourselves’.
Parenting ourselves is traveling back in time, to arrive at where we started, at emptiness, silence, purity, beginner’s mind, our true nature. We don’t make that journey alone, we do this with our inner parent, our adult self, our life experience. Along the way we encounter many obstacles; Our inner critical or demanding parent, who says we can’t, we aren’t good and that this journey is useless or taking too long.
Our avoidant protector, who says we shouldn’t go into this and should ask for help. Our dependent protector, who says we can’t do it alone. Our overcompensator, who thinks we’re better than other travelers. Mindfulness is our walking stick, deep looking our guide, compassion our backpack.
This weekend we will make the journey inward, through silent meditation and yoga, through writing and drawing, through contact with nature, through imagination exercises, but also by arranging our internal family constellation and thus representing these parts for one another. Periods of silence, of speaking and sharing alternate. Just like during the retreat, we remain in silence with the group outside the exercises.
Each day has its own theme, with the first day all about arriving and plotting the route. On the second day, the theme is deepening. Then we investigate the unconscious processes and recognize its language and images that arise. On day three, the heart and it’s gentle strength take center stage; we examine the caring movement toward ourselves.
We invite you to work on your own themes this weekend and we therefore appreciate it if you share something when you register. Let us know what questions or wishes you have, so that we can tailor the program accordingly.
Winter is a time of reflection, standing still, rest, sitting together by the fire. You are most welcome.
Information and registration
In-depth weekend Parenting Ourselves
This weekend retreat is intended for people who have previously participated in one of our Parenting Ourselves Retreats.
If you have a basis in Parenting Ourselves in another way, for example through schema therapy, in combination with mindfulness experience, you can also participate if there are still places left.
Guidance: Susan Bögels & George Langenberg
Language: THIS WEEKEND WILL BE LED IN DUTCH
Start: Friday evening, January 20 at 7:00 PM.
End: Sunday, January 22 at 4:00 PM.
Location: De Hoorneboeg
Price: €525,- for a single room
€505,- for a double room
Parking costs car: €5,- per day
At this moment, all single rooms are booked. If not all double rooms are booked, they will be allocated as single rooms. Let me know your preference when registering.
Marianne van den Heuvel will cook for us again these days with dishes from the Vedic kitchen.
You can come earlier on Friday, the Boszaal (our living room) will be at your disposal from 3 pm on Friday afternoon. Or come a little earlier to eat at Bij De Tuinman. You must reserve in time!